32 Expert Marriage Tips To Encourage Your Relationship

Have you ever wanted to ask a question to a room full of experts on a subject? Me too! So, that is exactly what I did in this post. I rounded up a group of Christian bloggers and asked them to share their very best marriage tips on a variety of subjects. Marriage can be a hard thing to navigate but praise the Lord, we have the wisdom of those who have gone before us to lean on. We can learn from the mistakes of others and intentionally build healthy relationships right from the very beginning. If you started off on the wrong foot, there is always hope for restoration in Christ. I pray each of these women are a blessing to you and that your relationship is encouraged by these marriage tips.

Marriage Tips On Forgiveness + Grace

1. Trust God and trust your husband. –Michele Morin, MicheleMorin.Wordpress.Com 2. Take that extra minute when your mind wants to react harshly before responding, be the first to forgive, acknowledge when you are wrong, never go to bed with a prideful heart, and for extra measure give that really long hug – the kind where you can actually feel the pride melting away and the love pouring back into your soul! –Nicole Lawrence, OurHolyThreads.com 3. See your husband as God would see him by seeking God first; though trials are unavoidable, seeing your husband with a godly heart will help you grow as well as your marriage. –Tabita McMeley, AnotherMommyBlogging.WordPress.Com 4. Learn to forgive and talk about issues once a disagreement calms down, for never talking about it will allow bitterness to grow. –Tabita McMeley, AnotherMommyBlogging.WordPress.Com 5. Banish the idea that your spouse is ‘against’ you in arguments, decisions, and challenges. You’re ‘for’ each other and ‘for’ your marriage. There is no winner and the greatest adversary to your marriage is Satan. You and your spouse sin against God and each other. Instead of being so offended, be more concerned with the spiritual growth of your hearts. Admit to each other where you struggle and offer grace as you walk towards Christ together. You are your spouses greatest support in spiritual growth! –Elaine Stores, ThisGratefulMama.Com 6. Remember to extend the grace God has given you to your spouse. Being willing to forgive and move on saves you from unnecessary fights or times of frustration. –Katie, PagesNPuddles.Com

Tips For Having A Christ-Centered Marriage

7. Your marriage is successful when it reflects the relationship between Christ and the church. –Allyson Reid, RaptMotherhood.Com 8. Marriage isn’t all about us. One of its purposes is to glorify God by reflecting the gospel. When we go through difficult trials, we should remember the steadfast, unconditional love of Christ.-Sandra Bretschneider, HeGentlyLeadsYou.Com 9. Marriage is not 50/50. It is 100/100. Marriage is all of us, all of the time. You have to give your entire self to your spouse, just the way Jesus gave His entire self to us. That is the gospel of Christ and the significance of marriage. –Angie Johnson, KeepingTheTieThatBinds.Com 10. Look at your marriage as an equilateral triangle-God at the top, you and your spouse at the bottom corners. Draw close to God as individuals and as a couple, and watch how, as you each draw closer to Him, you also get closer together. –Cathy Mayfield, LegaciesLetLoose.Com 11. Prayer is powerful! Commit to regular prayer time together and watch God bring help, hope, and transformation to your relationship and your home. –Joanna Teigen, GrowingHomeTogether.Com 12. God designed earthly marriage to be a glimpse of the gospel: the eternal marriage between Christ and the Church. Marriage isn’t about you. It is more about your spouse than it is about you, but ultimately it is about the Lord. –Emily Myrick, MarriedMyrick.Com 13.Chase after God’s heart first. As you each focus on God, you can’t help but draw closer together since your focus is united on Him. –Sarah Belanger, SincerelyAnchored.Com 14. Submission is not easy in the beginning but you can master it if you try. –Sara Benny, PreciousWomb.Com 15. You are not responsible for your husband’s heart; you’re responsible for your own. Before reacting to a flaw you see in your husband, get your own heart right with God. (Matthew 7:1-5) Make your own relationship with Christ your top priority. –Jana Carlson, WieldTheWord.Com

Marriage Tips On Handling Chaos +Conflict

16. Moving from newlyweds to parenthood in a short amount of time can be a challenge. Pregnancy and newborns take so much of your time and attention, as they should. But it is very important to not neglect your marriage during this time. Let it be a chance for you to work together, pray together, and grow closer. Practice working as a team. Most importantly, keep God at the center of it all. –Rachel Jerry, MinistryForMama.Com 17. In the midst of chaos, decide to sit side by side to go through whatever life is throwing at you two instead of sitting across the table throwing attitude and accusations at each other. –Susan Mead, SusanBMead.Com 18. Never use the D word. A divorce is never an option. –Davilyn Eberlan, SouthernSimpleBlessed.Com 19. Happy wife, happy husband, happy life. –Jem, ScripturalGems.Com 20. Two imperfect people cannot come up with a perfect solution to problems in the marriage. Rely on God to give you the perfect advice you need as you face challenges together. –Jem, ScripturalGems.Com 21. Be courteous. Use the same good manners and rules of etiquette with your spouse that you use for the strangers and friends you most want to impress. Good manners say “I honor and value you” and that’s a message worth giving. –Cynthia Singleton

Marriage Tips On Building Healthy Relationship

22. Be honest. About how you feel, what you need, your struggles, your triumphs, everything. Not only does it build trust, but a lot of the issues we have had would have been nipped in the bud with just a little bit of honesty. It is a little uncomfortable, to begin with, but totally worth it in the long run. –Christine Hope, TakeTheLeapBlog.Com 23. Don’t love your spouse for who they could be. Love them for who they are now. We need to accept each other with all our garbage and come to the realization that perfection will only come on the other side of heaven. –Luisa Rodriguez, FruitfullyLiving.Com 24. Give yourselves the gift of eye contact and undivided attention…put down your devices, find a babysitter, and refresh your marriage with uninterrupted time together. –Joanna Teigen, GrowingHomeTogether.Com 25. Love is not always a feeling but a choice. –Davilyn Eberlan, SouthernSimpleBlessed.Com 26. Spend time growing in your relationship with God making him a priority. The closer you both get to God, the closer you get to each other. Also, dating each other doesn’t end when you say I do. Try and do a date night activity at least once a week don’t use it to spend time talking about the kids or work but truly bonding with each other. If once a week is a stretch for you do once a month. Do what works with the season you are in. Start by Googling date night ideas and you will get tons of suggestions to get starting on being intentional in your marriage. –Shanique, RockSolidFaith.Ca 27. Spend some time figuring out what each of you considers as “big things” and decide how you will handle them. –Aminata Coote, Hebrews12Endurace.Com 28. Find a hobby to enjoy together. It could be card games, puzzles, DIY projects, music, it in our case, LEGO. Carve out time to work on your hobby together. Learn about it, practice it, spend time together doing it. –Katie McGowen, MyJoyInChaos.Com 29. Expect marriage to be hard work. You can’t coast long; you’re either pedaling uphill or sliding backward. Like all relationships, both people must invest a lot of time and effort into the marriage relationship to continue connecting. –Lila Diller, LilaDiller.Com

Marriage Tips on Intimacy

30. Make intimacy a priority in your marriage. God created a special type of intimacy for marriage alone (Genesis 2:24). We need intimacy in our marriage to help us grow together. –Apryl, MoneyWiseSteward.Com 31. It is important to Invest in Intimacy for Your Golden Years. –Anonymous 32. It is okay to enjoy sex & intimacy with your spouse. They are the only person you can enjoy it with so make it a priority. It may feel weird or awkward at first and you may struggle with different levels of desire and excitement, but take time to openly discuss this aspect of marriage with your spouse. Getting in the way of your intimacy is the first thing the enemy tries to do to destroy your marriage. If at first you don’t succeed, try again. And again. –Ashley, FaithfullyPlanted.com